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Kids and our society

Why is it I feel like I'm rude if I say something to parents in a restaurant, if their kids are being noisy and/or running around? My breaking point seems to be if the kids bump into me or start trying to talk to me when I'm eating. But even then, if I glare at the parents.. it feels like I'm in the wrong.

Where the heck did that come from, as I don't remember it ever being a concept that I was taught.. yet it seems widespread.

- Keman

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kesh
Nov. 22nd, 2005 10:03 pm (UTC)
I think it stems from the idea that no one should discipline the child but their parents... coupled with the idea that if you ask parents to discipline their child, you're insulting their parenting skills.

In other words, they don't want to make their kids behave and, by god, you should just like it! :p

I remember getting chewed out by a woman because I made her child get off the stacked Pepsi boxes we had on display at the grocery store where I worked. Even when I explained to her that the child could have been injured if they toppled the display of heavy soda cans, she was reluctant to take responsibility and just walked off in a huff, kid in tow.

Some parents just seem to think their kids shit roses, and nothing they do is wrong. One day, I'd like to rub their noses in it, but they'd just blame it all on me.
hydra_velsen
Nov. 22nd, 2005 10:44 pm (UTC)
You should be somewhat tolerant of kids.
firedhusky
Nov. 22nd, 2005 11:38 pm (UTC)
Guessing parents figure that if they have to put with it, then everybody else has to put with the little anoyances.

Don`t feel guilty to let know the parents that their kids are beeing anoying to you. OR you could embarase them more and complain to the waitress and ask her to come and tell the parents.

a lot of parents are just irresponsable idiots. for example.. why would you take your 6 or 10 years old to watch saw 2 ? wtf. made Kelar cover his eyes .. imagine what will do to a litle kid.

dont feel guilty

*hugs*

FDH
dogcandy
Nov. 23rd, 2005 12:18 am (UTC)
Humans have a biological desire to help young even if it is not their own. The child has obviously not learned or is not aware of what they are doing so their social interaction causes annoyance to others. The parents themselves may not be willing to listen to their own instinct, they may be used to the noises that their child makes, the social ineptness that comes with their age is tollerated until they come to an age which they become aware. Much like a puppy with puppy teeth is tolerated until they are done growing, then they are strongly corrected about chewing/biting. Humans oddly will care for young and interact with young that is not theirs, to be otherwise is to be againt natures design of how humans should be.
aldebron
Nov. 23rd, 2005 03:56 pm (UTC)
I just remember in my childhood where it was not acceptable to bring your children to a restaurant. the whole concept of a "family restaurant" is somewhat new in society. My grandmother was a firm believer in children should be seen and not heard. The grandkids weren't even aloud to eat at the same table as the adults till you were at wine drinking age (12-14). I guess we are just a big southern family, but along with it came basic rules. men pay the check, you stand whenever a lady enters the room, you all ways help with jackets and chairs. (as a kid, your job was to open the door at dinner parties, help the guests with their coats, and act as a greeter) never never speak to the adults 'less you were spoken to, and then when supper was finished, you were went up to your room so the adults could have brandy and a smoke. and thats the way it was.

If we did go out to a restaurant as a child, it was understood that the only reason for me to get up was to go wash my hands. it surprises
me to see kids crawling around on the floor in the dining room, especially in public.

I think it speaks to the time we live in. even when i was growing up, which was not that long ago, if you did something stupid and the neighbor saw you. they would warm your butt up good and then call your parents to come pick you up. then you would be in twice as much trouble because the neighbor had to discipline you, so you made your parents look bad, so you got it twice as bad and no dinner. Can you imagine even disciplining your neighbors kid now? do you even know your neighbors kid's name? (does your neighbor even speak english?)

I just think we lack the "tribe" sense now, in pursuit of the parents getting the better job or whatever. it was understood that once you had kids, that you stayed put till they went off to collage. i think people have kids because thats what they think they are suppose to do, not because thats what they want to do.

Sorry for the rant, its just a subject that i think doesn't get talked enough about.
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