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Fairfax county = bad

This area is getting really vile this time of year. I see it mostly on the roads. Everyone's in a hurry, and everyone is being extra-willing to step on everyone else to get to where they're going.

Every single time I go out driving, something bad happens.

It's bad beyond belief. If you live here, you know what I'm talking about. If you don't .. just be glad you don't.

I'm starting to think that I'm targeted moreso because I drive an expensive car. The envy and self loathing gets pushed a couple of extra notches when I'm around. Added to this is my sensitivity to those around me ... I have got to move. That's all there is to it.

Galen has a house here though, and a job with lots of security that in a couple more years, he'll have worked at for a decade. The only more senior people are the owners of the company and they really like him. And his housemate is the poster child for the ultimate housemate. Clean, considerate, quiet, intelligent, with good job security himself- he is quite the businessman working for the government.

Every day I start out trying to be nice, trying to be considerate. Trying to ignore what other people on the road do. But I can't ignore something of this magnitude ... and damnit I am NOT going to learn how to be so passive that I don't mind everyone being an asshole. I'm a good driver, yet I've been cussed out by more people opening their windows screaming obsenities at me in the last 6 months, than I have in my entire life. I've even had a fucking taxi cab pull up next to me and start cussing me out because he saw me do a u-turn after realizing the street I just pulled onto was 1 way and I was going the wrong way. It's not like I got in his way, there were no cars on the road. "He was just an asshole.", Galen told me. "That guy is just an asshole.", I keep getting told. "This area is full of assholes.", everyone keeps saying.

And to top it all off, everyone I tell this to is fully aware of it. Everyone I tell it to either has moved, or wants to move!!! Everyone who isn't an asshole is moving.

At least I know that what I'm experiencing isn't just all in my head. With all the new anti-speeding signs, the constant slew of new speed traps and the non-stop line of people being pulled over by cops ... I know it really is worse than it's ever been right now.

Maybe now isn't the time to be taking meds that improve my ability to pay attention?

- Keman


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Dec. 6th, 2005 07:18 pm (UTC)
From my observations and what other people have told me, it's just the fairfax area. Your experiences don't surprise me ... whenever I've been in your area, I've never had a problem. In fact, one block from your house was the first and only time I've ever chatted with another car enthusiast about my car while waiting for a light to turn green since I got my S4 8 months ago.

I think I get cussed out because of a variety of things. I don't drive passively, my car has a loud rumbly V8, I feature my own sort of 'entitlement' on the road in which I expect others to be curteous and respectful in certain situations.

Take last night for example.

Urban road goes from 2 lanes to 1 lane. Everyone is merging. The Civic SI on my left decides that noone can merge in front of him, despite the long line of cars that are merging carefully, 1 car at a time. Eventually I run out of road, and merge in front of him anyways, cutting him off. When the road became 2 lanes again a mile later, he had choice words with me, pulling up next to me. I shrugged at him and carryed on. So he rolls down his wondow and continues to shout vulgarities at me, including swerving his car in front of mine as though he's going to hit me. I just carry on trying to ignore him. Rest assured, if he hit my car... bad things would happen. I gotta get out of this area. I'm not interested in going to jail because I messed someone's face up who decided to have some road rage over something so simple as me expecting him to merge like every other civil person on the road. When a lane goes away, I let people merge all the time. I had my signal on. I wasn't trying to cut in front of him, I wasn't running to the end of a long traffic jam and merging in at the last second. It was a 30 mph road, with a long line of cars merging when the lane went away, and everyone was doing such in a civil manner. That asshole just felt that he was entitled to a choice and didn't have to let me in front of him, and when I forced it .. he felt he could continue to stamp me into the ground. He would have been quite surprised at his lack of ability to step on me after I threw him under my car and ran over his head. *growl*

- Keman
Dec. 6th, 2005 06:40 pm (UTC)
I know you don't bother to reply to me anymore but I know Galen will read it.

Galen, you've always been a pretty cool guy to look up to even with all the teasing and odd times between us. But whatever, we've talked for years, and it's still always cool to see you at cons. :D
Dec. 6th, 2005 07:08 pm (UTC)

That post was by me, not Galen. And your name is not familiar to me .. have we met?

- Keman
Dec. 6th, 2005 08:14 pm (UTC)
I'm Kinematics. :P
Dec. 6th, 2005 08:20 pm (UTC)
So, uh.. What was the motivation for your post? :-)

Dec. 6th, 2005 11:54 pm (UTC)
I can't say anything about Fairfax specifically, but I can say that in my experience, pretty much the mid-Atlantic, especially the more civilized areas around the coast, tends to be full of egotistical jerkoffs. And not just on the road. People who are too busy to smile at someone when they're walking down the hall at work, or too busy to be civil when they're at the checkout line in a grocery store. Just no sense of community or civility at all.

As far as I'm concerned, the world would be a better place if everything from eastern massachusetts to eastern virginia just crumbled off the continent into the atlantic. And that's going easy on NYC. But maybe I'm a little bitter.

I haven't talked with too many new agey people about it, and I'm not really much of one myself, but you really can almost taste the bad vibes around there, housed in a claustrophobic sprawl.

I don't fault you at all for wanting to leave, but it does sound like it's tricky given the boyfriend situation. For that matter, I'm kind of on the other side of that myself. I don't really even like Detroit all that much, but work is stable and my family and BF live here, so... what to do.

Anyway, good luck! Either way, at least you could buckle in for a couple years maybe, or find a commute that doesn't involve driving as much. Dunno.
Dec. 7th, 2005 03:36 pm (UTC)
I do think Fairfax County is a place of bad driving, and this is partly occasioned by the fact that whoever planned the roads (like the double Main Street in Fairfax City) was on crack. But everybody's clustered so closely, everybody's stressed about being the first to get to the Metro station so they can actually park there -- and the gap between the haves and the have-nots is huge. They built new yuppie-condo housing in two places in Fairfax while I was there, ripping out perfectly good trees to do so. Many of those units were still sitting empty when we left a year ago.

Breathe, and know that it's not you. Shit happened to us while we lived there that never happened when we actually lived inside the District. Score one for irony.
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